Posts 2009-Present
- Administrative (2)
- Blind Spots (9)
- Briefly Noted (12)
- Communication (12)
- Confidentiality (1)
- Conflict (5)
- Consequence (4)
- Control (12)
- Emotions (11)
- Finances (4)
- Flexibility (2)
- Forgiveness (1)
- Legal Matters (10)
- Negotiation (17)
- Parenting / Co-Parenting (5)
- Patience (1)
- Prenuptials (2)
- Priorities (3)
- Reconciliation (2)
- Relationships (9)
- Society (2)
- Spirituality (1)
- Statistics (1)
- Stepfamilies / Families (1)
- Support Groups (2)
- Trust (4)
- Unhooking (4)
- You ® (1)
Legacy Posts
Courtroom
Divorce Resources
Other Resources
Dell Deaton
Personal Respect
Tweet Blender
Tag Archives: negotiation
How complicated is divorce, really?
Among too many uncritically examined “givens” you’ll hear bandied about the courthouse as truth, I’ll note the following. Every family situation is unique. No judge could decide better than the married spouses themselves what’s best in organizing their separation in divorce than they are, themselves. Or— Believe me: You’re really not gonna like it if [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Control, Legal Matters, Negotiation
Tagged as: complicated, custom, divorce, expense, husband, mediation, negotiation, parenting time, spouse, wife
Leave a comment
What does “brand loyalty” have to do with divorce settlement negotiations?
One of the negotiation fundamentals is that improved relationship value reduces price pressure. This is key and applicable to the process of divorce settlement negotiations, since “price” is invariably a consideration in looking at what the parties must come to accept as an equitable distribution of property. Author Tom Reilly, writing in the June 1, 2008, Industrial [...]
Posted in Negotiation, Priorities, Relationships, You ®
Tagged as: divorce counseling, divorce strategy, Industrial Distribution, negotiation, value, You®
Leave a comment
Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Physical Surroundings”
Shapiro and Jankowski alert would-be negotiators to a number of manipulative aspects associated with this tactic. In divorce matters, however, advantage can be gained with far less effort. Emotional challenges found in no other sort of negotiation certainly apply to the potential impact of physical space and comfort. Remember, in divorce, both marital partners are [...]
Posted in Control, Emotions, Negotiation
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, control, game theory, negotiation, power
Leave a comment
Recognizing “strategically difficult” opposition, part 2
Part 1 on this topic listed 10 of “The Top Twenty Tactics of Strategically … Difficult People,” as delineated by Ronald M. Shapiro and Mark A. Jankowski (with James Dale) Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People: How to Beat Them Without Joining Them. The following, then, completes that inventory. As I mentioned previously, games I’ve seen played [...]
Posted in Control, Emotions, Negotiation
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, divorce mediation, game theory, Michigan divorce, negotiation
Leave a comment
Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Red Herring”
Hand’s down, this is the tactic I’ve seen work most effectively in delivering on goals desired as divorce outcomes. At the same time, there’s an important reason why it is under-utilized and otherwise easily exposed by way of sloppy implementation. By definition, “goal setting” requires strategic thinking, prioritization, and discipline. All are rareties in the [...]
Posted in Negotiation, Priorities
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, divorce strategy, goals, negotiation, Washtenaw divorce
Leave a comment
