Comments for Divorce Balance http://www.divorcebalance.com intelligent approaches to marital discord Mon, 19 Dec 2011 07:12:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on Contact by JulietJeske http://www.divorcebalance.com/contact/#comment-632 JulietJeske Mon, 19 Dec 2011 07:12:00 +0000 http://www.divorcebalance.com/?page_id=221#comment-632 And one more point...was I supposed to stay married to a closet case? Was I supposed to continue a sham marriage, to perpetuate his self-loathing? Because that is what "the closet" is for most homosexuals. "The Closet" is a horrible existence, full of lies and more lies all to cover up a very basic human need, which is a healthy sexuality. My ex tortured himself while living in that closet, and he wanted me, no begged me to keep him there. By leaving him, I released him from this self-inflicted hell. He is now out and proud and we are close friends. But it took a lot of time for that to happen. He cost me nine years of being a real authentic relationship, and I had every right to be upset about that. Or no, maybe in your reality I should have stuck it out! Or maybe I should blame myself for his lies? Yeah, I guess it is all my fault. Try going to a Straight Spouse Support meeting and saying that to a room full of men and women who have gone through the same thing I have! Trust me, you would not get a warm reception. And one more point…was I supposed to stay married to a closet case? Was I supposed to continue a sham marriage, to perpetuate his self-loathing? Because that is what “the closet” is for most homosexuals. “The Closet” is a horrible existence, full of lies and more lies all to cover up a very basic human need, which is a healthy sexuality. My ex tortured himself while living in that closet, and he wanted me, no begged me to keep him there. By leaving him, I released him from this self-inflicted hell. He is now out and proud and we are close friends. But it took a lot of time for that to happen. He cost me nine years of being a real authentic relationship, and I had every right to be upset about that. Or no, maybe in your reality I should have stuck it out! Or maybe I should blame myself for his lies? Yeah, I guess it is all my fault. Try going to a Straight Spouse Support meeting and saying that to a room full of men and women who have gone through the same thing I have! Trust me, you would not get a warm reception.

]]> Comment on Contact by JulietJeske http://www.divorcebalance.com/contact/#comment-631 JulietJeske Mon, 19 Dec 2011 06:55:00 +0000 http://www.divorcebalance.com/?page_id=221#comment-631 You totally misrepresented my article, the blah, blah, blahs that you left out included...I don't know...the fact that my husband had been living a secret life as a homosexual. That is kind of HUGE. Not exactly a we weren't getting along and the communication broke down type of divorce. One day I was married, found proof of his lies, and I left him. My therapist said that if I WASN'T angry at least for a time, I would have much bigger problems healing. I am not mad at him anymore, and we are on good terms. But mine wasn't exactly a routine divorce. Your creative editing is highly unethical, and anyone who goes to the actual article, could see that. Way to discredit yourself! Honestly you may not like how I write or that I am a very popular blogger on HuffPo, but I put all of my truth out there. And my regular readers KNOW IT! You totally misrepresented my article, the blah, blah, blahs that you left out included…I don’t know…the fact that my husband had been living a secret life as a homosexual. That is kind of HUGE. Not exactly a we weren’t getting along and the communication broke down type of divorce. One day I was married, found proof of his lies, and I left him. My therapist said that if I WASN’T angry at least for a time, I would have much bigger problems healing.

I am not mad at him anymore, and we are on good terms. But mine wasn’t exactly a routine divorce. Your creative editing is highly unethical, and anyone who goes to the actual article, could see that. Way to discredit yourself! Honestly you may not like how I write or that I am a very popular blogger on HuffPo, but I put all of my truth out there. And my regular readers KNOW IT!

]]> Comment on “How To ‘Not’ Use Social Media” when divorcing by JulietJeske http://www.divorcebalance.com/2011/12/how-not-to-use-social-media-when-divorcing/#comment-630 JulietJeske Mon, 19 Dec 2011 06:34:00 +0000 http://www.divorcebalance.com/?p=326#comment-630 Thanks for the FREE PUBLICITY! This came up in a google search. The Huffington Post has been really good for me, life changing in fact. I write a lot of different pieces for them. The social media piece was meant to be lighthearted and self-deprecating nothing more than that. My husband was a closet case who lied to me for nine years...it is a fairly black and white situation. Even he agrees with me on that fact! Funny how you edited that part out! Nice cherry picking there! And again, keep saying my name! The more you do, the bigger my platform becomes! Anyone can get published on the Huffington Post, all you have to do is submit. Go for it! Blogging about another writer is wasted energy, you just give me more attention. Thanks for the FREE PUBLICITY! This came up in a google search. The Huffington Post has been really good for me, life changing in fact. I write a lot of different pieces for them. The social media piece was meant to be lighthearted and self-deprecating nothing more than that. My husband was a closet case who lied to me for nine years…it is a fairly black and white situation. Even he agrees with me on that fact! Funny how you edited that part out! Nice cherry picking there! And again, keep saying my name! The more you do, the bigger my platform becomes! Anyone can get published on the Huffington Post, all you have to do is submit. Go for it! Blogging about another writer is wasted energy, you just give me more attention.

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