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Category Archives: Trust
So divorce mediation isn’t confidential after all?
In the early 1980s, a college buddy of mine bought a house in Ann Arbor for renovation and anticipated subsequent rental. He was an engineer, which lends itself to such prerequisite skill sets, mechanical-side. I claim no such credentials. One day I was over at the house and he encouraged me upstairs to see a [...]
Posted in Confidentiality, Negotiation, Trust
Tagged as: Alternative Dispute Resolution, divorce court, divorce mediation, reality, Washtenaw divorce
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Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Trust Me”
Before rolling our sleeves up on this one, let’s back up for a refresher on two divorce fundamentals upon which this one relies. Trust has to be earned. That means the person asking for your trust (a) has been challenged to demonstrate trust to you on issues of equal or greater importance to the one [...]
Posted in Negotiation, Trust
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, divorce, divorce negotiation, game theory, trust
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Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Take It or Leave It”
In the area where I practice, divorce mediators may refer to this as your “Last, Best Offer.” One of the ways in which this is manifest is by opposing counsel: “If you want us to meet for a possible divorce settlement, you’d better come with your last, best offer.” Okay, so what are your options [...]
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Tagged as: control, divorce mediation, divorce strategy, game theory, negotiation
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Use, rather than display, “The Art of War” in divorce
In the early 1980s, most of my consulting work was as what’s commonly called an “executive coach,” and in organizational design. The latter fundmantally means studying interactions between two or more individuals and developing means by which they can best function harmoneously. As a result, I found myself in the offices of a lot of [...]
Posted in Control, Negotiation, Relationships, Trust
Tagged as: Ann Arbor divorce, divorce mediation, divorce strategy, negotiation, The Art of War
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