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Category Archives: Relationships
Does marriage fulfill the “meeting of minds” legal standard?
As I am not a lawyer and don’t play one on TV, it is with great reluctance that I pull out my Black’s Law Dictionary for divorce-related matters. But it seems some sort of an accountability must be found to the increasing number of married folks who come to divorce practitioners in utter amazement at [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Communication, Legal Matters, Prenuptials, Relationships
Tagged as: Ann Arbor divorce, Black's Law Dictionary, marital contract, marriage license, meeting of minds, meeting of the minds, Michigan divorce, pre-marital counseling, Washtenaw County Clerk, Washtenaw divorce
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The little things that compromise relationships, part 3
Wrapping up this discussion of “I love you, but…” from Psychologies, August 2009, here are the top five complaints men have about their female romantic partners. Being too critical Sulking Nagging Spending too long in the bathroom / getting ready Bossiness
Posted in Communication, Conflict, Relationships
Tagged as: irritants, Psychologies, relationship issues, roommate issues, sources of conflict
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The little things that compromise relationships, part 2
Implicit in part 1 of this topic was the notion that men and women each have a list of irritants that can cumulatively compromise their relationships. Here are the top five complaints about men. “Snoring” “Developing a new hobby, buying all the equipment, and then moving on to something else.” “Not listening” “Untidiness” “Spending too [...]
Posted in Communication, Relationships
Tagged as: irritants, Psychologies, relationship issues, roommate issues, sources of conflict
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The little things that compromise relationships, part 1
“Typically, we think of relationship deal breakers as the big dramas,” writes Rebecca Smith in the August issue of Psychologies. In her article titled, “I love you, but…,” she delineates examples of what we’re often told are brand-name causes of divorce, including “infidelity, addiction and disagreements over big decisions such as whether or not to [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Communication, Prenuptials, Relationships
Tagged as: divorce causes, Michael Cunningham, Psychologies, roommate, Trevor Silvester
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What does “brand loyalty” have to do with divorce settlement negotiations?
One of the negotiation fundamentals is that improved relationship value reduces price pressure. This is key and applicable to the process of divorce settlement negotiations, since “price” is invariably a consideration in looking at what the parties must come to accept as an equitable distribution of property. Author Tom Reilly, writing in the June 1, 2008, Industrial [...]
Posted in Negotiation, Priorities, Relationships, You ®
Tagged as: divorce counseling, divorce strategy, Industrial Distribution, negotiation, value, You®
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Best way to resolve relationship tension?
In a quick-hits section titled “Think Tank Bulletin,” the August 2009 issue of Psychologies tackles the following. We asked: What’s the best way to resolve tension in your relationships? You said… 12% sex 88% humor Far be it for me to “interpret” this sort of data as mutually exclusive. But if you think both in [...]
Posted in Flexibility, Relationships
Tagged as: conflict, conflict resolution, marriage, Psychologies, relationships
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How long does it take to “cool off” from an argument?
This one is often a shocker for people. But, as you can imagine, it’s a good thing for a divorce counselor, and especially a divorce mediator, to know. Things heat up. How long do you allow for them to cool off before you get back into discussions? Relationship expert John Gottman, Ph.D., writes about this [...]
Posted in Conflict, Emotions, Reconciliation, Relationships, Statistics
Tagged as: anger, arguments, John Gottman, marital discord, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
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