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Category Archives: Emotions
“How To ‘Not’ Use Social Media” when divorcing
“Dating After Divorce: How To Not Use Social Media,” is the title of a piece by “comedian” Juliet Jeske on the Huffington Post. After two introductory paragraphs, Ms Jeske gets down to it with 10 points she recommends be followed. Then closes with this bit of wisdom. You are bound to be slightly insane after a divorce, [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Communication, Emotions, Unhooking
Tagged as: anger, communications, divorce, divorce recovery, divorce story, facebooks, letting go, self-talk, social media, unhooking
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Best approaches to new skill development
Divorce invariably involves change. Coupled with inherent fear, I often am called upon to help clients work through I-can’t attitudes that hold them back from the get-go. Where do you start? It’s a blend of attitude, mechanics, and understanding how change works in human beings. Sarah Neish wrote a piece for Psychologies that summarizes The Talent Code [...]
Posted in Emotions, Flexibility
Tagged as: attitude, change, Psychologies, skill development, The Talent Code
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Improve your decision-making
Psychologies, August 2009: The next time you face a tough choice, whether it’s at work or in your personal life, think of a situation where you felt powerful. Remembering a time when you took command can sharpen your judgment when you’re faced with a dilemna. Source: Psychological Science In practice, this is something I’ve recommended [...]
Posted in Control, Emotions
Tagged as: choice, decision-making, divorce, Psychological Science, Psychologies
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Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Physical Surroundings”
Shapiro and Jankowski alert would-be negotiators to a number of manipulative aspects associated with this tactic. In divorce matters, however, advantage can be gained with far less effort. Emotional challenges found in no other sort of negotiation certainly apply to the potential impact of physical space and comfort. Remember, in divorce, both marital partners are [...]
Posted in Control, Emotions, Negotiation
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, control, game theory, negotiation, power
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