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Category Archives: Control
How complicated is divorce, really?
Among too many uncritically examined “givens” you’ll hear bandied about the courthouse as truth, I’ll note the following. Every family situation is unique. No judge could decide better than the married spouses themselves what’s best in organizing their separation in divorce than they are, themselves. Or— Believe me: You’re really not gonna like it if [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Control, Legal Matters, Negotiation
Tagged as: complicated, custom, divorce, expense, husband, mediation, negotiation, parenting time, spouse, wife
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It’s often good to laugh … at ridiculous things
One of the things I hope to accomplish here is to help otherwise straightforward married persons, doing their best to approach divorce in good faith, that there are a lot of games to which they may be subjected en route. It’s not even so much that there’s some secret place to look. As matter of [...]
Posted in Communication, Control, Priorities
Tagged as: Ann Arbor divorce, divorce, divorce strategy, Michigan divorce, Negotiation Bootcamp
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Improve your decision-making
Psychologies, August 2009: The next time you face a tough choice, whether it’s at work or in your personal life, think of a situation where you felt powerful. Remembering a time when you took command can sharpen your judgment when you’re faced with a dilemna. Source: Psychological Science In practice, this is something I’ve recommended [...]
Posted in Control, Emotions
Tagged as: choice, decision-making, divorce, Psychological Science, Psychologies
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Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Physical Surroundings”
Shapiro and Jankowski alert would-be negotiators to a number of manipulative aspects associated with this tactic. In divorce matters, however, advantage can be gained with far less effort. Emotional challenges found in no other sort of negotiation certainly apply to the potential impact of physical space and comfort. Remember, in divorce, both marital partners are [...]
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Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, control, game theory, negotiation, power
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