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Category Archives: Blind Spots
A Christian perspective on secular Divorce Negotiation
I work with clients through secular and pastoral divorce counseling, both effectively under what most folks have come to know as Divorce Reality Group.* One is secular, the other a Christian in perspective. So which is it? Revelation 3:15-16 cautions: I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were [...]
The little things that compromise relationships, part 1
“Typically, we think of relationship deal breakers as the big dramas,” writes Rebecca Smith in the August issue of Psychologies. In her article titled, “I love you, but…,” she delineates examples of what we’re often told are brand-name causes of divorce, including “infidelity, addiction and disagreements over big decisions such as whether or not to [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Communication, Prenuptials, Relationships
Tagged as: divorce causes, Michael Cunningham, Psychologies, roommate, Trevor Silvester
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Game-playing in divorce negotiation: “Higher Authority”
This is a tactic very commonly used to gain advantage in divorce negotiations. In my practice, we call it “Man Out of the Room Syndrome.” Or, as Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People labels it, “Higher Authority.” The game moves like this. Ostensibly serious divorce settlement negotiations are undertaken between the two opposing sides, sometimes facilitated [...]
Posted in Blind Spots, Control, Negotiation
Tagged as: Bullies Tyrants and Impossible People, divorce counseling, divorce mediation, game theory, negotiation
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