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October 14, 2008

“Shut Down the Parental ATM,” Scouting, John Clark (October 2008)

This article is actually an interview with Janet Bodnar, deputy editor of Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine and author of Raising Money Smart Kids. To start off, Scouting asks her to set the stage for why a sound money management foundation is important to parenting and raising children.

Bodnar: So that someday they can function independently. You want to teach them that money is a useful tool, that it can be used for practical things. But you don’t want them to get too emotionally tied up with it, or be afraid of it, or hoard it, or covet it, or overspend. You just want them to have a healthy attitude toward money.

Key points:

  • Different values may be important to different families; educate yourself so that you can impart those values accordingly.

  • Think “age appropriate.” Young children may think an ATM prints money for the taking, as opposed to the concept you’ll need to teach them about the need to fill it up first, like a piggy bank.

  • Allowances should not be linked to chores.

  • How do you answer the question of an outside job during the school year?

  • Should you give “advances” on allowances?

  • Regardless of the financial system you choose to work with your child to create, it is important that that system not be too complicated or difficult to manage.

Bodnar emphases that “You don’t have to share the details of your personal finances with your kids,” which is often a particular struggle for parents coming out of divorce.

Bold, underline, and put an exclamation point after this if you feel inclined to share any financial information you may know or think you know about your former spouse.

Do not discuss child support or alimony with your children.

—posted by Dell Deaton @9:57 AM EST 10/14/2008
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