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February 19, 2008

“Misery is not Miserly: Sad and Self-Focused Individuals Spend More,” Carnegie Mellon University, Cynthia E. Cryder; Harvard University, Jennifer S. Lerner; Stanford University, James J. Gross; University of Pittsburgh, Ronald E. Dahl  (February 2008)

There’s a lot more to this study than the news headlines that briefed its release. In my opinion, the implications for economic decisions made in the face of divorce are profound.

The “Misery is Not Miserly” Effect, as it is labeled by researchers Cynthia E. Cryder, et al., “is the tendency for sadness to carry over from past situations to influence normatively unrelated economic decisions, increasing the amount of money that decision makers give up to receive a commodity.” How much more are those so afflicted willing to pay? When sadness is coupled with self-focus, some individuals “gave up 30% more money to acquire a commodity.”

In my own divorce mediation practice, I routinely see this effect. It can be very difficult to try and dissuade distressed marital partners from spending significantly more on legal process than would otherwise be justified — for the same outcomes. Further exacerbating this is the “adversarial system” (the Court, by definition), which encourages and requires self-focus at a time of extreme personal sadness over the losses associated with ending marriage.

The authors’ basic model works like this: Sad event + self-focus š devaluation of self š desire to enhance self š increased valuation of possessions (more broadly, I’d argue, “goods and services”) that one might acquire. Identifying and now focusing on these discrete elements as they relate to divorce suggests great opportunities for improvement in court, support group, and mediation approaches.

—posted by Dell Deaton @11:50 AM EST 2/19/2008
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