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Wednesday, June 15, 2005
My Omega Seamaster Story: Rebuttal

In an earlier draft of "My Omega Seamaster Story," I opened with the following paragraph.

"This is one of those things that either clicks with people thinking I'm brilliant, or leads to a confrontation from someone now convinced that I'm an out-of-touch idiot."

Out of respect for this second group and validating other points of view where appropriate, let's return to my story. Pick it up from the point where I reveal that my Timex 48811 is not an Omega Seamaster watch.

"My divorce is not about things, Dell," erupts a woman at one presentation, when I open up for questions.

"I don't have a choice. What happens when the other person takes it to the judge? When someone accuses you of all sorts of terrible things and lies? Am I supposed to just sit there and not respond? My divorce is a lot more serious than a watch!"

The argument she delivers seems more declarative than inquiring, her questions rhetorical.

Still, I'd like to stand behind her here. If the opportunity to "have your day in court" tops your list, then that is your Omega Seamaster. But it's still a choice. And with every choice comes alternatives not chosen.

My story, as a "tool," can serve you by elucidating the fact of these choices and the priorities you are choosing.

I'm not here to judge what you choose in divorce court.

But I'd like to emphasize that you are always choosing — even when it's couched as a "forced response."

—posted by Dell Deaton @11:55 PM EST 6/15/2005 [250]

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